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Saturday, March 5, 2011

Quraan on Marriage and Marital Relationships

Please note:  I have not verified the veracity of these verses, however, over the years at the World Muslim Congress forum, Mohammad Irtaza has been sharing verses from Quraan on a topic basis, I have randomly checked for the accuracy and except once, he has been right in the quoting the right verses. However, the reponsibility is your to verify the verses. You can go to verse search on the right panel toward the middle and plug in the verse. This is a reliable source thus far and compares with the authenticated copy of the Quraan translation by Muhammad Asad at http://www.islamicity.com/QuranSearch/

Mike Ghouse
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Marriage is intended to be a long term relationship as we understand from many verses of the Quran:

[16:72]  And God made for you spouses from among yourselves, and produced for you from your spouses children and grandchildren, and provided you with good provisions.  Should they believe in falsehood, and turn unappreciative of God's blessings?

[30:21]  Among His proofs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility and contentment with each other, and He placed in your hearts love and care towards  spouses.  In this, there are sufficient proofs for people who think.

[42:11]  Initiator of the heavens and the earth.  He created for you from among yourselves spouses - and also for the animals.  He thus provides you with the means to multiply.  There is nothing that equals Him.  He is the Hearer, the Seer.

[2:223]  Your women are the bearer of your seed.  Thus, you may enjoy this privilege however you like, so long as you maintain righteousness.  You shall observe God, and know that you will meet Him.  Give good news to the believers.

[4:35]  If a couple fears separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family; if they decide to reconcile, God will help them get together .  God is Omniscient, Cognizant.

[2:226]  Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then God is Forgiver, Merciful. 
[2:227]   If they go through with the divorce, then God is Hearer, Knower.

[65:2]  Once the interim is fulfilled, you may reconcile with them equitably, or go through with the separation equitably.  You shall have two equitable witnesses witness the divorce before God.  This is to enlighten those who believe in God and the Last Day.  Anyone who reverence God, He will create an exit for him.

[4:24] Also prohibited are the women who are already married, unless they flee their disbelieving husbands who are at war with you.  These are God's commandments to you.  All other categories are permitted for you in marriage, so long as you pay them their due dowries.  You shall maintain your morality, by not committing adultery.  Thus, whoever you like among them, you shall pay them the dowry decreed for them.  You commit no errors by mutually agreeing to any adjustments to the dowry.  God is Omniscient. Most Wise.

[4:25] Those among you who cannot afford to marry free believing women, may marry believing slave women.  God knows best about your belief, and you are equal to one another, as far as belief is concerned.  You shall obtain permission from their guardians before you marry them, and pay them their due dowry equitably.  They shall maintain moral behavior, by not committing adultery, or having secret lovers.  Once they are freed through marriage, if they commit adultery, their punishment shall be half of that for the free women.  Marrying a slave shall be a last resort for those unable to wait.  To be patient is better for you.  God is Forgiver, Most Merciful.

[60:10] O you who believe, when believing women (abandon the enemy and) ask for asylum with you, you shall test them.  God is fully aware of their belief.  Once you establish that they are believers, you shall not return them to the disbelievers.  They are not lawful to remain married to them, nor shall the disbelievers be allowed to marry them.  Give back the dowries that the disbelievers have paid.  You commit no error by marrying them, so long as you pay them their due dowries.  Do not keep disbelieving wives (if they wish to join the enemy).  You may ask them for the dowry you had paid, and they may ask for what they paid.  This is God's rule.; he rules among you.  God is Omniscient, Most Wise.

Marriage is intended to be a long term relationship and  the Quran discourages divorce:

[4:35]  If a couple fears separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family; if they decide to reconcile, God will help them get together .  God is Omniscient, Cognizant.

[2:226]  Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then God is Forgiver, Merciful. 
[2:227]   If they go through with the divorce, then God is Hearer, Knower.

[65:2]  Once the interim is fulfilled, you may reconcile with them equitably, or go through with the separation equitably.  You shall have two equitable witnesses witness the divorce before God.  This is to enlighten those who believe in God and the Last Day.  Anyone who reverence God, He will create an exit for him.

[2:229] Divorce may be retracted twice. The divorced woman shall be allowed to live in the same home amicably, or leave it amicably. It is not lawful for the husband to take back anything he had given her. However, the couple may fear that they may transgress GOD's law. If there is fear that they may transgress GOD's law, they commit no error if the wife willingly gives back whatever she chooses. These are GOD's laws; do not transgress them. Those who transgress GOD's laws are the unjust.

Marriage is intended to be a long term relationship and  the Quran discourages dissolving existing marriage even it is unlawful:

[4:22] Do not marry the women who were previously married to your fathers - existing marriages are exempted and shall not be broken - for it is a gross offense, and an abominable act.

[4:23] Prohibited for you (in marriage) are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, the sisters of your fathers, the sisters of your mothers, the daughters of your brother, the daughters of your sister, your nursing mothers, the girls who nursed from the same woman as you, the mothers of your wives, the daughters of your wives with whom you have consummated the marriage - if the marriage has not been consummated, you may marry the daughter. Also prohibited for you are the women who were married to your genetic sons. Also, you shall not be married to two sisters at the same time - but do not break up existing marriages. GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful.

Unlike Marriage, Mutah is fabricated only for the purpose of  sexual need as understood from the following  Bukhari hadith falsely attributed to the Prophet:

Volume 6, Book 60, Number 139:
Narrated Abdullah:

We used to participate in the holy wars carried on by the Prophet and we had no women (wives) with us. So we said (to the Prophet ). "Shall we castrate ourselves?" But the Prophet forbade us to do that and thenceforth he allowed us to marry a woman (temporarily) by giving her even a garment, and then he recited: "O you who believe! Do not make unlawful the good things which Allah has made lawful for you."

Now please compare the above fabricated hadith of Bukhari with the following  best hadith of the Prophet:

[5:87] O you who believe, do not prohibit good things that are made lawful by GOD, and do not aggress; GOD dislikes the aggressors.
[5:88] And eat from the good and lawful things that GOD has provided for you. You shall reverence GOD, in whom you are believers.

Sadly, Islamic scholars interpret the above verse 5:87 in the light of the Bukhari hadith, Volume 6, Book 60, Number 139  stated above and justify Mutah or " false marriage" to cheat the society in the name of Islam to legalize prostitution!!!

[24:33] Those who cannot afford to get married shall maintain morality until GOD provides for them from His grace. Those among your servants who wish to be freed in order to marry, you shall grant them their wish, once you realize that they are honest. And give them from GOD's money that He has bestowed upon you. You shall not force your girls to commit prostitution, seeking the materials of this world, if they wish to be chaste. If anyone forces them, then GOD, seeing that they are forced, is Forgiver, Merciful.

[31:6] Among the people, there are those who uphold baseless Hadith, and thus divert others from the path of GOD without knowledge, and take it in vain. These have incurred a shameful retribution

Thank you and may God guide me,

Muhammed Irtaza